Abuse comes in many forms with one thing in common:
Abuse ruins lives!
Abuse is often justified as discipline.
Abuse is often disguised as love.
Abuse can be mental, physical, or sexual.
Abuse is embarrassing so it's often secretive.
Abuse can devastate your life so please get help.

The most important thing to keep in mind is that:
ABUSE IS NOT YOUR FAULT!

Sexual Abuse

Any unwanted touching of your private parts is sexual abuse.
Any unwanted verbal sexual suggestion is sexual abuse

You can be victimized sexually by those you love and trust the most.
When this happens they will be working on convincing you that everything 
happening is natural. This is the hardest form of sexual abuse to deal with because 
it puts you in a position to hurt someone you love and/or trust.
There is nothing natural about being sexually touched by a relative, friend of the family, 
teacher, police officer, church personnel, or anyone else.

Sexual activity is only natural when you are old enough to know what you are doing
 and you are a WILLING participant.
Please understand that if you feel uncomfortable in any way with a sexual act,
then you are NOT a willing participant.

There are adults that prey on kids of all ages because they are sick or just too much 
of a loser for other adults to give them the time of day.
If any of these people approach you, get help!
They will prey on your weaknesses and make you feel like they are your only friend.
THEY JUST WANT TO ABUSE YOU!

There are some things that are flat out just not right and you should get help if they happen to you.

If someone -- INCLUDING RELATIVES! -- gives you an
"Atta boy/girl" tap on the butt is one thing -- If they grab a handful of your butt in the process --
THAT IS NOT RIGHT!

Sexual predators will do anything to get you alone. 
This holds true especially for relatives and/or friends of the family. 
As soon as you feel a person that has gotten you alone comes too close or 
if they do or say things that are not right...
GET THE HELL OUT!

Go tell someone immediately. 
Keep in mind that you may not be believed -- that doesn't matter!
Telling as many people as you possibly can will act as deterrent for that 
predator not to approach you again.
If it happens to be your parents that don't believe you -- 
go to the police and force them to listen and believe.
If all else fails, kick that son or daughter of a bitch where it hurts.

Be strong and stay strong!

The effects of sexual abuse are long lasting and very serious.
Sexual Abuse can lead to depression, low self-esteem, promiscuous sex,
drug and/or alcohol abuse, extremely risky lifestyle, and even suicide.

Usually you blame yourself for the abuse and in many cases, especially those that 
involve relatives or friends of the family, others will blame you.

Bottom line is...
IT'S NOT YOUR FAULT!
Point, blank, period!

If you feel as though you are being inappropriately approached in a sexual manner, 
tell someone before it's too late. Get Help!

Click below for helpful links

Help Links

If you feel more comfortable talking with a victim of sexual abuse
e-mail: mybloodylife@hotmail.com
Just please be patient as it may take me a couple days or more to answer.

I can certainly relate with your problem, but can only help you if you 
trust me with information I can use to make the abuse stop.

Physical Abuse 

Physical abuse is not something only parents and guardians take part in.

There a lot of guys and gals that are raised in abusive homes and want to continue 
the madness with you as the punching bag.

Apologies in tears are common with this type of abuser.
You may already know someone like this -- they may be your boyfriend/girlfriend 
or husband/wife.

You have to be strong and use common sense.
Ask yourself: Would you brutally beat someone you love?

Know and understand that physical abuse is often accompanied
by mental torture meant to make you feel worthless and
therefore powerless in leaving an abusive situation.

Go to whatever extremes needed to get help.

Mental Abuse 

YOU'RE STUPID!
YOU'RE A LOSER!
YOU'LL NEVER BE NOTHING BUT A LOSER!
WHY CAN'T YOU BE LIKE YOUR BROTHER/SISTER!
YOU'RE UGLY!
YOU'RE FAT!
YOU'RE SKINNY!
YOU THINK YOU KNOW IT ALL!
YOU'RE A WIMP!
YOU'RE THE CAUSE OF ALL MY PAIN!
YOU'LL NEVER AMOUNT TO NOTHING!
IF IT WASN'T FOR YOU THINGS WOULD SO MUCH BETTER!

Heard any of these before?
Unfortunately there are hundreds of others that were left out.

Insults like these are meant to demean you and destroy
your self-esteem. These insults have no purpose other than to
control you or hurt you.

Mental abuse is sometimes more harmful than physical abuse.
The words, the insults -- they echo in your mind over and over.
Because of this you have trouble concentrating on things like
school and work. You also use the same words against others.

You seek acceptance and reassurance from people that don't
talk to you in this manner and accept you despite your flaws.
This acceptance is more often than not found in the form of 
drug and alcohol abuse, gang involvement and/or promiscuous sex.
All of these are just temporary relief from the anguish you live with.

Know and understand that you are in state of mind where
you can easily be taken advantage of. You are actually going
from one abusive situation to another.

A form of mental abuse that is often overlooked is NEGLECT.

Effects of neglect are easily dismissed as a kid being spoiled.
After all, bigger houses, luxurious cars, expensive clothes,
and hundreds of electronic gadgets are the achievements being
earned while kids are being neglected.

Any sudden rebelliousness is blamed on video games, TV,
and music -- usually Rock and Roll or Hip Hop.
Of course access to all of the above are items given to kids
to get them out of our hair. 

No intention in correlating success with neglect is being made
here, and if you feel it is, then you are probably guilty of neglecting your kid.
There are plenty of stay at home parents/guardians that have
no clue what their kids are up to -- what with all the reality shows
on TV why take the time to deal with REALITY?

Would you confide in someone that only pays attention to you
when you do something wrong? Neither do kids!

For the Kids

Sexual, physical, and mental abuse are issues that your family
most likely refuses to talk about. Many times some form of abuse
is a deep, dark family secret.
There is no doubt that talking about abuse within your family is
hard and very embarrassing. It doesn't help that sometimes when you
do speak up NO ONE LISTENS and you are made out to be the
the one causing problems.

IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!
DON'T STOP TRYING TO GET HELP!

Turning to drugs and/or joining a gang will only put you in a position
to be further abused or to express your anger in ways that will
destroy your life even further. Turning to sex will only leave you
feeling used and unloved. Keep in mind that there are many 
ASSHOLES that know you may be a victim of abuse or neglect 
and prey on your vulnerabilities to further abuse you.

Go to a teacher you trust! Call a helpline!
Do whatever it takes, just DON'T GIVE UP!

By taking action you are helping to STOP THE CYCLE OF ABUSE
so that your own kids don't become victims.

 Please don't hesitate to e-mail mybloodylife@hotmail.com
if you feel you have no where else to turn.
Just please be patient as it may take me a couple of days or more to answer.